This matter has been in my head for quite a while. And I’ve been trying to contain it, but I think it’s time to let it out.
Some of us humans, women especially, are quick to believe and adopt hogwash. We advertise these beliefs through memes. Sometimes, I check my BBM updates and I see all sorts. “A woman deserves a prince that will cross seven seas and seven oceans for her”, “If you don’t bow down and worship your woman every morning, she will walk away and find another man who can”, “It is the duty of men in life to make you happy, and if he is not doing that, dump him”. These are exaggerated, but you get my point. In fact, let me show you some of the memes I’m talking about:
When I see these kinds of things, I either want to call up the contact and yell “bullshit!”, or ask them if life has been stressful lately. But maybe the problem isn’t the memes. I think it’s about how we think and perceive things. I believe that if we just take a second to consider, think again about those things, we would not be so quick to adopt them. Why should we constantly expect and demand things? Why is our worth and happiness dependent on another human being? I’m not advocating tolerating jerk behavior, but really, if you’re expecting one person to do and be all these things to and for you, what will you do for yourself? And what will you bring to the table? Your happiness must be something that comes from within yourself. My problem with these things is the use of “every woman” and “deserves”. Like these things should be handed to us simply because we’re women.
The one that made me speak finally is this one:
At first glance, you nod and agree and maybe even smile. But take a closer look. This is a half-cooked kind of egg. You are not strong just because you know your weaknesses. That’s like saying “there’s a sore on my toe, but it’s healed because I know there’s a sore”. Yes, you need to know your weaknesses. But sometimes, all knowledge does is make you roll around in the mud of your own inadequacies, and use them as a cop out and excuse for irresponsible or inconsiderate behavior. We start to say things like “That’s just the way I am”. The first step is knowing, then accepting, then adjusting what needs to be adjusted.